Life After Breakups: Grieving Through the Tough Moments
Breakups, especially if they happen unexpectedly, can leave us feeling hurt, confused, and rejected.
Some of us know the feeling too well: crying or fending off tears at random points in the day or when you get little reminders, being so out of routine not hearing from them anymore, or even struggling to sleep well through the night or difficulty getting up in the morning.
Breakups often elicit feelings of grief, as we notice it’s a loss of something we feel has been significant to us and still is significant to us. You’re grieving moments from the past, trying to understand what is now your new present, and anxious over what the impending future will be. Everything that may have seemed so stable to you once, now feels as though it is “up in the air,” including your support system (whether this support was physical, emotional, mental, financial, etc.), routine and responsibilities, family and friends you shared and bonded with, your living situation, and maybe even your identity. This article will give you some insight into grieving a breakup and trying to figure out how to move forward after.
Welcome Any and All Feelings
Not every day will be the same. Not every moment of the day will have the same feelings. This happens. You may have a mix of them: happiness, anger, sadness, confusion, uncertainty, and exhaustion. All normal. All are part of the breakup process.
Re-invest in You
Sometimes in relationships, we spend a lot of our time planning things for or doing things with our partners. When the relationship ends, it can be helpful to lean back into things you previously loved doing without that person or outside of the relationship. The one thing you do have control over in a breakup is how you try to move forward in the process, not necessarily how you’ll feel, but the attempt to move forward.
Try to Find Meaning from What This Relationship Can Teach You
Remember that a life for you existed before this significant person entered your life. Whether for you this was a good or bad experience, life can be better even after the person leaves. Not every relationship has a happy ending. Some relationships are meant to show us exactly what we don’t want in a partner. But I get it. I know what you’re thinking. It’s hard to even imagine there’s a possibility of a better life without them, or a better person without them, given that, right now, you feel so hopeless.
Lean on Your Loved Ones
The end of a relationship can make us feel like we have no one. But that isn’t true. Make sure to share whatever you feel you can with other people who support you and comfort you, including friends and family. Some of them have been in situations that maybe were similar or at least, can understand what you’re going through.
Start Working With a Grief Counselor in Miami, FL
Miami Vibes Counseling Center offers relationship, life transition, and grief counseling both in-person and telehealth. If you’re struggling with the grief or loss of a relationship, whether romantic, familial, or platonic, reach out to our team to get started in the healing process with one of our trusted therapists. You can start your therapy journey by following these steps:
Contact us to schedule a session
Meet with one of our caring therapists
Start coping with relationship loss in healthier ways!
Other Services Offered With Miami Vibes Counseling
Grief counseling isn’t the only service that Miami Vibes Counseling offers. Other mental health services include CBT, ACT, TF-CBT, and parenting support. In addition, we are happy to offer treatment for stress, trauma, depression, and anxiety therapy. Our team is happy to provide support for couples, infidelity, children, and families. Learn more about our other services including ESA letters, support for business or employment stress, spirituality, and online therapy. Visit our blog or FAQs page for more helpful info today!
